Finding real love

1.You don't find love, love comes to you. If you really want to find true love forget about dating sites and party clubs, be patient. I know it's hard but be patient and as warning once you're ready to do anything for your love get ready to go through a hell lot of things. It's love, what did you think, it was gonna be easy?

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   Get yourself out there. If you expect to find your soulmate at some point, chances are you're going to have to take part in the exciting activity known as dating. No, you're not alone; yes, it can be a hassle, and occasionally more than disappointing. But dating can take a lot of forms, and with a little bit of confidence, self-respect, and creativity, can help you find the person of your dreams.
   • Ask your friends if they know anyone who might be a good fit for you. Your friends spend a lot of time with you and understand your likes and dislikes. Trust them to set you up with someone they feel is a good match. If you don't hit it off, have the confidence to bounce back, stay on good terms with your date, and not blame your friend.
     
   • Attend functions, socials, and reunions. Have that out-of-town seminar looming? Look at it as a chance to meet someone in the same profession and maybe hit it off. The world works in mysterious ways; the more you attend events that interest you or involve your profession, the higher your chances of meeting that special someone will be.
     
   • Make your public profile interesting, engaging, and honest. Remember, this is what people will first digest when they look at your profile. If you take the time to add interesting details about who you are and where you come from, what you like and what you find funny, chances are the right sort of person will respond. If you're dishonest in your profile, the people you meet in person will eventually figure that out and probably won't respond well.
     
   • Make a genuine effort to reach out to people. Send interesting messages, and take the time to craft an engaging message. "I noticed you're in the auto industry, what do you think of this new car model?" is much likelier to elicit a response than "Hey, what's up?"
   • When you decide to meet your date in person, pick a public place and keep the first date short. A public place means your date will feel safe in a social environment. Even if your date is going really well, beg off after an hour and leave time for successive dates. You'll get many chances to feel more comfortable with the individual, and you won't risk exhausting things to talk about on the first date.
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   Don't keep making the same mistakes.Dating is tough. Finding that person — much less that soulmate — who we feel understands us perfectly and meets all of our needs can take years. That's why it's important to keep growing as we date, and learn from our dating mistakes.
   • Don't put yourself in abusive relationships. An abusive relationship will cause you to lose trust in other people, blame yourself for other people's problems, and fall into an attitude of despair. Respect your own dignity and leave relationships in which your partner threatens you, insults you, becomes addicted to drugs, or manipulates you to get what they want. Seek a relationship expert or other professional if you suspect that you might be in an abusive relationship.
   • Don't fall back in with the same person you've dated and broken up with six or seven times. Psychologists say that we fall back into relationships with people we've broken up with because of comfort and familiarity: we don't have to start all over again and we know a lot already about the other person. Well, there's a reason you've broken up seven times. Probably more than one. Contrary to what they might say, your relationship probably won't change. Break the cycle and go looking for a new adventure!
   • Accept people for who they are, not who you want them to be. You've got all these fantasies flying around in your head about how wonderful and special your soulmate will be, and it can be easy to project those specific characteristics and features in anyone you get involved with. Unrealistic expectations can ruin a relationship, and might even chase your soulmate away. Whoever your soulmate may be, appreciate their individuality and trust that if this person is your soulmate, they'll never need to change who they are for you, just like you'll never need to change who you are for them.

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